After an Abortion: Steps Toward Healing
1. Recognize that you are not alone. Others
have been through the same experience and the same trials. Their experiences
and understanding can help you. They want to help you, just as you
may want to help others after you have finished going through the healing
process. (See "Don't Go It Alone.")
2. Recognize that the road to full recovery will
take time and effort. God's forgiveness can be had instantly. But sorting
out your feelings and overcoming the ever-present temptation to give in
to despair and doubt--these take time.
3. Recognize that it is normal and good to mourn
the loss of a loved one. Just as mourning the loss of a parent or spouse
takes time, so does mourning the loss of an aborted child. In the case
of abortion, the mourning process is often cut short and never completed
because of denial or feelings of guilt.
Courageously allow the mourning process to get back on track. Accept
your grief as normal rather than something which must be covered up or
pushed away. Recognize that the pain of your loss will fade as your healing
4. Admit your personal responsibility but also
recognize that others, too, were involved. Pray for the strength to forgive
both yourself and everyone else who either encouraged or pressured you to have the abortion
or failed to help you avoid it.
5. Give your child over to the care and mercy of God. Do
not try to hold onto your child by prolonging your grief. While it can be very
difficult to release your child to God, you can pray for God's help to do so.
6. Forgive others. Recognize that they, too, acted
out of ignorance, fear, or petty human selfishness. If possible, let them
know that you forgive them.
7. Forgive yourself. Remember that God wants you to be healed and restored to the fullness of
joy and happiness.
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